Setting yourself as a top priority in your life is not only good for you, but it is also good for those who share your life. When you learn to take care of and value yourself, you are more emotionally healthy and available to take care of others. When you learn to appreciate and trust yourself, you can be more open and honest with those in your life, too.

Learning to value yourself is not selfish; it is necessary. Valuing yourself means you become a better person and make stronger choices for yourself. Here are five ways you can learn to start appreciating yourself more and ensuring you are the most critical person in your life.


  1. Embrace Mistakes and Learn from Them.


Everyone makes mistakes. And while it’s normal to regret things you’ve messed up in the past, instead of dwelling on your mistakes and living with shame, there is a better choice. How you handle blunders and embarrassments tells a lot about how you value yourself. And when you learn to see mistakes as an opportunity to learn, not something to forget, you will value yourself for the imperfect, evolving human you are.


Instead of turning to negative self-talk and derogatory statements after a setback, ask yourself what you can learn. What will you do differently next time? Mistakes are opportunities to learn from new information and do better in the future. And when you embrace this way of thinking, you place more value on yourself as a growing person than on the mistake itself.


  1. Always Do Your Best.


If you want to value yourself more, you have to live by your values and always strive to do your best to uphold your personal standards. When you try your best, even if your best that day was not perfect, you’ve don’t everything you could possibly do, so there’s no reason to be ashamed. When you can honestly tell yourself that you have tried your hardest, you can feel nothing but pride in yourself.


  1. Stop Settling.


If you want to start valuing yourself more, you need to stop settling. Accepting less than what you deserve or want is devaluing your own needs and interests. Don’t settle for a job that doesn’t fulfill you, a partner that doesn’t treat you well, or a friendship that doesn’t lift you up. You deserve the things you want in life, and when you settle for less, you are not valuing yourself above others.


  1. Let Go of the Comparisons


When you compare yourself to others, you are shifting attention away from yourself an onto people and lives that have nothing to do with you. Instead, focus on yourself and what you need. Make plans for how you want to reach your goals, because what other people are trying to do doesn’t have any impact on your life. When you stop comparing yourself to others and only worry about yourself, you truly value what is most important in your life.


  1. Follow Your Passion


Do what makes you happiest in life. Follow your dreams, embrace your passions, and focus on living to your fill purpose, and you’ll finally know what it is to value yourself. When you pay attention to your own bliss and stop letting others distract you from that, you place importance and worth on what makes you happy in life.


Final Thoughts


Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will ever have. Learn to listen to your needs, respond to your wants, and invest in your goals, if you want to learn to truly value the person you are.