If you have decided that now is a good time to stop the smoking habit, then you’ll be pleased to know that hundreds of thousands of people have already released themselves from the grip of nicotine and you can do it too.
You need to fulfill the commitment you have made with yourself and with those close to you. The first step is to alter your thinking and become and optimist. You must change your habits, meaning any of the habits that lead you to smoke.
You need to think of all the good reasons to quit, but only those that make sense to you, personally, and think how much better your life would be if you quit smoking, but use specific reasons. Write down the reasons you started smoking and the reasons you want to quit. Again, these must be your own reasons! Do not just use the reasons from anti-smoking ads you see on television or reasons others have used, they will not work unless they are reasons to which you are emotionally attached. This will give you strength.
If you properly condition yourself mentally then you can certainly realize the commitment you have made to yourself. People are generally scared of the withdrawal effects without giving thought to the long term benefits of quitting. They never think that the pleasure, comfort and enjoyment that they are getting from smoking is short term. These feelings exist at a subconscious level. Studies say that we experience 60,000 thoughts a day, and unfortunately when you are scared of quitting smoking a high percentage of those thoughts can be negative.
So, remember, write it down. Write down the reasons you want to quit smoking and use those reasons to start to motivate yourself. It’s not an easy task, but many have gone before you so you know it’s possible.
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We have all done it. You start the day with a commitment to eat healthy all day, and by 5:00, you are munching on stale doughnuts on the drive home or sneaking snacks after everyone else is in bed. But somehow you convince yourself that these choices are okay.
That you “deserve” this treat or will “get back on track tomorrow.” These self-sabotaging behaviors are common and the number one reason that most people struggle to lose weight permanently.
Knowing you are sabotaging yourself is the first step to stopping this unhealthy behavior. Once you can recognize the habits and patterns of self-sabotage, then you can work toward reversing these, which will enable you to be more successful at changing your health and reducing your weight. Here are the most common ways you are sabotaging your weight loss efforts.
- “I earned this treat.” If your goal is to lose weight and be healthier, then everything you do should be focused on that effort. When you reward your positive changes and hard work at eating healthy foods and exercising more by indulging in unhealthy options, then you are sabotaging your progress. Eating well all day does nothing if you blow eat with a “treat” every night. You can’t be healthy five days a week and unhealthy two days a week and expect to see real change.
- Using exercise to “make up” for bad food choices. If you eat unhealthy food, then use exercise to “punish” yourself for this behavior, you are reinforcing several unhealthy ways of thinking about diet and exercise. Exercise is not something you should do to work off calories or burn off cheat meals. And just because you worked out does not mean you can eat more if you are trying to lose weight.
- Blowing “treats” way out of proportion. It used to be that people at sugary treats very rarely. Like once a month. Same with fast food. Same with eating out. Now, we have someone convinced ourselves that these are things you should have much more often. A treat is just that. Something special, meant to signify a real reward, not making it until bedtime without blowing your diet. They should be things you enjoy in very small quantities at very special times.
- Using fake food to make up for your lack of nutrition and calling it healthy. If you eat crappy food all day long, it does not matter how many supplements you take each day. You are not going to be healthy. The majority of the vitamins and minerals you need for optimal health should come from the nutrient-dense food you eat, not from supplements. You can use supplements to fill in minor gaps in your nutritional needs, but focus first on the right food, and you will not need to rely on these so much.
- “I skipped breakfast, so I’ll eat more for lunch.” Unless you are a dedicated follower of intermittent fasting and understand how to break a fast effectively, more people who skip meals are much more likely to overeat later in the day, thus negating the “saved” calories from the missed meal. Eating small, well-balanced meals regularly is more likely to keep you on track and help you feel sated and quell food cravings than skipping meals.
- Not understanding your limits. For some people, you can take a bite or two of an indulgent treat, feel satisfied, and be able to put the fork down and be done. Others will have three bites of that treat, which will trigger a midnight raid on the “emergency” ice cream in the freezer. Knowing your triggers and honoring your limits is key to staying on track.
Whether it is one of these or one of hundreds of other ways that you rationalize your poor nutritional or exercise choices to yourself, it is crucial that you recognize these, own up to them, and find new, healthier ways to stop engaging in these types of actions, if you genuinely want to be successful at losing weight.
Setting yourself as a top priority in your life is not only good for you, but it is also good for those who share your life. When you learn to take care of and value yourself, you are more emotionally healthy and available to take care of others. When you learn to appreciate and trust yourself, you can be more open and honest with those in your life, too.
Learning to value yourself is not selfish; it is necessary. Valuing yourself means you become a better person and make stronger choices for yourself. Here are five ways you can learn to start appreciating yourself more and ensuring you are the most critical person in your life.
- Embrace Mistakes and Learn from Them.
Everyone makes mistakes. And while it’s normal to regret things you’ve messed up in the past, instead of dwelling on your mistakes and living with shame, there is a better choice. How you handle blunders and embarrassments tells a lot about how you value yourself. And when you learn to see mistakes as an opportunity to learn, not something to forget, you will value yourself for the imperfect, evolving human you are.
Instead of turning to negative self-talk and derogatory statements after a setback, ask yourself what you can learn. What will you do differently next time? Mistakes are opportunities to learn from new information and do better in the future. And when you embrace this way of thinking, you place more value on yourself as a growing person than on the mistake itself.
- Always Do Your Best.
If you want to value yourself more, you have to live by your values and always strive to do your best to uphold your personal standards. When you try your best, even if your best that day was not perfect, you’ve don’t everything you could possibly do, so there’s no reason to be ashamed. When you can honestly tell yourself that you have tried your hardest, you can feel nothing but pride in yourself.
- Stop Settling.
If you want to start valuing yourself more, you need to stop settling. Accepting less than what you deserve or want is devaluing your own needs and interests. Don’t settle for a job that doesn’t fulfill you, a partner that doesn’t treat you well, or a friendship that doesn’t lift you up. You deserve the things you want in life, and when you settle for less, you are not valuing yourself above others.
- Let Go of the Comparisons
When you compare yourself to others, you are shifting attention away from yourself an onto people and lives that have nothing to do with you. Instead, focus on yourself and what you need. Make plans for how you want to reach your goals, because what other people are trying to do doesn’t have any impact on your life. When you stop comparing yourself to others and only worry about yourself, you truly value what is most important in your life.
- Follow Your Passion
Do what makes you happiest in life. Follow your dreams, embrace your passions, and focus on living to your fill purpose, and you’ll finally know what it is to value yourself. When you pay attention to your own bliss and stop letting others distract you from that, you place importance and worth on what makes you happy in life.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will ever have. Learn to listen to your needs, respond to your wants, and invest in your goals, if you want to learn to truly value the person you are.
The mind-body relationship is becoming clearer thanks to the advent of modern science. Likewise, the link between our thoughts and our emotions are also becoming better known. Research has demonstrated an obvious correlation between good emotions and a strong psychology.
Our thoughts and our emotions both form a circle reinforcing the other. Negative thoughts will generate emotions of a similar nature and these emotions will then result in more negative thoughts. This forms a vicious pattern that is most clearly observed in patients suffering from PTSD and other traumas. It is very difficult for these people to break free, and the events keep recurring in their minds.
Over time, such patients heal to an extent. The main way to heal is gradually, as these patients can focus their energies on things that they enjoy so that the memories fail to repeat themselves and lose some of their previous force. Calming therapeutic modalities work over time to gently alleviate these traumas. However, modern society is anything but therapeutic.
On the other hand, healthy emotions are linked with successful and a powerful psychology. People who are happier have more success and better interpersonal relationships. They have better concentration, memory, and social skills. It is far easier to be successful when you have a positive emotional framework as a foundation than to be struggling internally.
How to Manage The Relationship
Everybody is in a situation where they need to better manage their thoughts and emotions. It takes some time, but there are proven ways to reinforce the strengths of our thoughts and emotions. These include:
- Deep Communication
- Creative Work
Meditation and mindfulness are practices where we simply observe what is happening in our minds. This is very beneficial in a world that is so externally orientated. We can observe how we feel and how these thoughts stimulate certain emotions. Over time, we can catch the negative thoughts before they gain too much momentum and ruin the whole day.
Deep communication is another technique where we work with a therapist or practitioner to document and analyze our own patterns for further insights.
Creative work is about self-expression. An intense dedication to creative work is an excellent way to remove any negative tendencies. What can happen is that we are so focused on artistic inventions that we are not focusing any of our energies on the things that make us weak. This works far more quickly than meditation and mindfulness if we can find something that we are truly passionate about.