Unfortunately drugs are all around and easy to get hold of. Young people are very vulnerable but there are warning signs to be aware of that a child may be using drugs:

These first three are ones to really look out for.

  1. A gradual loss of interest in hobbies and sport.
  2. Reduced interest in personal hygiene and grooming
  3. Decline in performance in school.

These first three are all activities that naturally produce a high, they make the person feel good. They may be getting their ‘highs’ met by drugs, hence their declining interest in getting natural highs. These are possible red flags, however don’t just assume they are taking drugs immediately there may be other causes, start to look for other clues before jumping to conclusions.

4.Sudden irregular mood swings

5. Staying out more, possibly with a new circle of friends

6. Sores and rashes, especially around the mouth.

7. Excessive tiredness

8. Loss of appetite

9. Excessive spending or borrowing of money

10. Use of deodorants, aftershave, perfume etc to hide the smell of drugs.

The first port of call as always is your GP. who will be able to put you in touch with a drug  counsellor66381076_855003401553647_1505559730020417536_n



Slaying Negative Beliefs

Hidden Inner Beliefs: How You Can Find and Change Negative Beliefs Into Positive Ones

What are hidden inner beliefs? These are views you have about yourself and the world – beliefs that may have been there since your childhood. They are the result of family, friends, school, church, books, television, the Internet or your own experiences.

Inner belief is created to ensure a simpler life. For example, if you touch a hot stove, logic would suggest that you’d think about the stove before you touch it again. After all, touching it while it’s hot a second time means you get burned once more. This belief is one that will keep you from endangering yourself.

However, not every single inner belief you have is positive.

For instance, if a person hurts you during a relationship, you may feel you can never trust another person again. This is a negative inner belief that keeps you from enjoying a healthy relationship – a negative inner belief that causes bitter feelings.

If you are to break the cycle of negative inner beliefs, you need to change them into positive beliefs. If you believe you cannot be successful at something, then that’s what will happen. You won’t be successful. However, it doesn’t have to be that way! You can change these inner beliefs to work more in your favor.

How To Find Your Hidden Limiting Beliefs

If you are to find these negative beliefs, you must pay closer mind to your daily thoughts. If you find yourself thinking negatively, you can look at the attitudes and feelings. What are some common negative limiting beliefs people tend to have?

• I’m just not good enough
• I don’t think I’m ready for this
• I don’t have enough experience
• I am a failure at time management
• I won’t be creative if I am not spontaneous
• No one is better at my job than me because they don’t care like I do
• I am unable to do this because other people are better at it than me
• I lack the right equipment
• Why bother trying if the economy sucks
• My life is too busy to focus on my goals
• I’m too short, fat, tall, etc.
• I need to wait to ensure this is the right choice for myself

Believe it or not, these are hidden beliefs, but since they are in your subconscious, they can stop you from going after what you want. You’ll start to wonder why you are constantly two steps behind when you want to be a step ahead. By recognizing these hidden negative beliefs, you can take the necessary steps to change them into a way that allows them to work for you – allowing you to attain whatever you want in life.

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Beliefs Are Just Your Perception Of Reality


Your limiting beliefs began small – a minor interpretation of a perceived reality due to something happening to you or around you. You look at the event through the experiences you’ve had already in your life – things you know – and then construe them in a view that works for you.

It may make sense to you at the time, and it’s only solidified when something else happens to reaffirm the first instance. With more and more instances such as these, it only reconfirms what you think you know. It creates a shape of belief. The more confirmed that belief is, the stronger it will become.

Your Belief Will Become A Part Of Your Subconscious

It won’t be long before the belief becomes a part of who you are that you’ll no longer think about it. It becomes part of the subconscious belief system. Think of the human brain as a computer. It starts with the most common task to confirm the belief in conjunction with others already in the system. Whatever a person believes, the brain confirms it repeatedly.

The way nature has allowed the brain to work; the brain can prevent insecure feelings. The more solid the beliefs it has, the better off a person will be against the world.

The brain will choose ways in which to confirm a belief. It subconsciously looks at and interprets information that confirms what a person believes. Anything else that contradicts this will be ignored. These beliefs come together and give people their point of view of how the world is. This means your view of the world will differ from your best friend.

Your Beliefs Can Limit You

As your beliefs become more part of you, they can hinder you from being more than you can be. Any beliefs you have in childhood can carry on with you into adulthood. And, some beliefs you attain later in life – some of these will hinder you from being able to enjoy new things in your life, take part in events going on or even keep you from taking the next leap in life (despite the clear road).

What Can You Do?

If you want to overcome these limiting beliefs, there are four things you must do:

• Recognize what the beliefs are
• Question them
• Come up with a replacement belief
• Enforce and reaffirm the belief

It’s important to understand that you can change just one belief at a time. Trying to change them all simultaneously will cause your body to shut down and go into crisis mode. Focus on just one belief. When you manage to successfully overcome it, focus on another belief to change it.

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3 Ways In Which To Recognize The Negative Beliefs You Have

Dream Interpretations

Your dreams can be quite useful in figuring out what your subconscious mind is dealing with. This is especially true if you have the same dream repeatedly. When your dreams repeat themselves, it means your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something – something you need to pay mind to. When you begin having the same dream over and over, you need to take time out and research what it means and how you can deal with the problem head-on.

Dreams can help you to recognize the negative things in your life (those limiting beliefs). For example, if your dreams involve a constant attack by the same groups of folks, it could be the result of people you no longer talk to – some kind of falling out you had with them. It may have been the right thing for you, but that doesn’t mean it was easy. The dreams are a representation of your guilty conscience – a way to punish yourself because your subconscious feels like you need to be punished.

Ask Yourself Questions and Give Truthful Answers

Be sure to write down the areas in your life that you are not happy with. This is the time you need to be honest with yourself. Be sure you deal with every single one and look into the reason why you’re not happy. This is the time to get into the nitty-gritty (the heart) of what makes you so unhappy. Then, consider what you can do to change the circumstances and what would make you in the end.

Look at the reason why you are where you are. What beliefs do you have that brought you to it? Now, what beliefs would help you out of the situation so you can be happier? Allow yourself to think freely and write down everything that comes to mind. If you are totally honest with yourself, you’ll realize what beliefs you have are limiting you.

Set Goals

When you create goals for yourself, you start to recognize the beliefs that limit you. It can give you the answers as to why you have yet to ascertain your goals just yet. Again, you want to answer as truthfully as you can. Look at the answers you have and look deep into them. You should see there are not outside forces keeping you from attaining them.

You’ve created everything in your life to date because you have the power to go after what you want. This may not be what you want to hear, but the reality is that you can’t blame others for not getting what you want. If you want something positive to happen to you, you need to take control of all the situations you are faced with and tackle them head-on.

Are your Beliefs Hindering You?

Have you made the same mistake but not in the same way? Do you constantly think negative thoughts and behave in ways that hinder you from being successful? Are you constantly blaming others for things happening in your life – never taking responsibility for your own actions? If the answers to these questions are in the affirmative, then you probably have a subconscious limiting belief that you need to contend with.

This kind of belief limits you from moving forward with life and becoming the best person you can be. If you want to get anywhere you want, you need to remove any negative belief you may have. Of course, this means recognizing what these negative beliefs are. Now, you may be asking yourself how you can recognize a negative self-belief.

First, you need to understand why it’s important to recognize them.

Why Should You Identify Your Negative Self Beliefs?

Negative self-beliefs are based on false or invalid thoughts that can hinder you from growing to be the kind of person you want. The problem in recognizing them is that they are a part of you – of who you are. Due to the way they are, you may feel it’s just who you are, your genes, your luck or something else you have no control.

Another problem is that they can be societal effects. Most people tend to see them as normal parts of life. This is not the truth, and you need to understand that right now!

These kinds of beliefs are harmful to your growth, which is why you need to recognize what they are and how they are affecting you overall. By doing this, you may be in for a nasty surprise. What you may have thought about yourself when you recognize these beliefs.

How Does The Law Of Attraction Factor In?

The problem with these beliefs is they may be so ingrained in your subconscious because you’ve had them for so long. They become “default thoughts”! If you look at it through the concept of law of attraction, you have to ask yourself what these default thoughts are bringing to your life.

With the embrace of laws such as the law of attraction, you decide for yourself how life will be for you. Now, if you do this without recognizing what your limiting beliefs are and getting rid of them, then what good are you doing for yourself? These beliefs are deeply embedded in your life and have the energy you don’t want them to have.

By recognizing and eliminating them, you can move past all the negativity and allow more positive things to enter your life including thoughts and beliefs.


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Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs To Fully Live Your Life

When you believe something to be right, chances are the conviction was formed out of logic, right? Actually, this is not the way in which beliefs develop; you don’t need evidence to have a belief in something. If that were the case, you could say that a person you don’t know looking at you is evidence of you being boring. The first thing you have is a belief, which is when you start looking for evidence to support the belief. This then leads to twisting facts, so they become evidence.

Since this isn’t how beliefs are created, it’s safe to ask where and how beliefs come about.

Beliefs are the result of one thing – to avoid pain and experience pleasure. For instance, believing that something isn’t possible for you to do may be your way to avoid the pain that comes from failing. With that belief in mind, you begin to look for evidence that will support it. When your mind fails to find any evidence, it will create them instead by twisting things in their favor.

How can you change these limiting beliefs?

2 Key Ways To Destroy Fallible Beliefs

There are two ways in which you can incorporate a belief with the evidence that will support, but first, you must get rid of any belief that has no supporting evidence behind it.

Challenge The Belief Itself

One way to do this is to challenge the evidence. How so? You must question beliefs and create the doubt that the evidence doesn’t support the belief you’re trying to eliminate.

For example, if a person thinks they are boring, they should be questioning that belief. Did someone tell them they are boring? What evidence do they have that support this theory? Were they obtained properly?

This is the way a belief changes. You question it repeatedly! The stronger the belief is, the more questioning you will have to do. By constant questioning of this belief, you can destroy it. For example, if you the evidence you had from a stranger’s glance was that you were boring, by challenging it, you limit the belief, and it eventually becomes non-existent.

Tie It To Pain

Another unique way in which to change your beliefs is to tie it back to some type of pain. Remember, beliefs relate someway to pain. When you tie it back to pain, you realize the damage it’s doing to you. You can steer clear of the belief and eventually it’s gone.

3 Key Mindset Shifts You Need To Lose Weight And Keep It Off

Weight loss is hard.

Well, you may be surprised to hear weight loss isn’t where people struggle the most.

People don’t really struggle to lose weight. They struggle to keep it off.

There are all sorts of diets and challenges people use to lose weight. The problem is this rapid weight loss never lasts. Once you stop the diet or challenge, the weight comes right back. You may even end up heavier than you were before the diet!

So, I’m going to give you 3 crucial mindset shifts you need to adopt if you’re tired of gaining weight after dieting.

  1. Think long term habits not short-term fixes

You need to change your time frame. If you look for quick fixes, you’ll only get short term results. You need to stop thinking about losing weight quickly and start thinking about how to lose weight sustainably.

Renowned Strength coach Dan John challenges people to lose 1 pound in a year. Inevitably, people scoff at the idea. But is it really such a ridiculous goal given that most people gain 1 pound a year? (https://www.acpm.org/page/holidayweightgain)

When deciding the actions, you’re going to take towards weight loss ask yourself if it’s something you could see yourself doing for 5 or 10 years. This is what I mean by changing your time frame.

Your results are tied to your actions. If you can’t maintain the actions that got you weight loss, you won’t maintain your weight loss.

Stop thinking weeks. Start thinking years.

  1. Ignore shiny objects

This may be even harder than ever. Information and fads can spread so quickly with social media. There’s always some new, sexy secret that will be the answer to all your problems.

But I assure you, success is about mastering the basics. Not the fancy stuff.

It’s all about practicing basic and boring habits like:

  • Eating more protein and veggies,
  • Listening to your hunger cues,
  • And getting enough sleep.

Not exactly marketable advice, but it works. Ultimately, any diet that works does so because it keeps your calories low. There’s nothing magic about it. In fact, most fads are just repackaging of old fads.

Unless you become a hermit and lock yourself away in a cave, you will be tempted by whatever is in style right now, or whatever your friends and colleagues are doing.

Ignore it all.

Those are all shiny objects that distract you from what you ought to be doing.

Stay focused. Stick with a program or plan for at least 6 months before you even think about looking for a new one.

  1. Focus on the process

Weighing yourself every day is a good way to drive yourself crazy. You can do everything right and sometimes the scale will still go up! Daily weight fluctuations are unpredictable and uncontrollable because your weight at a given time is based on so much more than just how much fat or muscle you have.

Besides, you can’t control how fast results happen anyway.

You can only control the actions you take to get you those results. A better way to look at your journey is by developing a razor-sharp focus on the process, on what you need to be doing right now.

Because actions cause results. So, it’s logical to focus on actions. Thinking about results won’t get you there, but actions will.

Celebrate all the little things you do well.

If you went to the gym, give yourself a high five. If you ate more veggies than you did last week, congratulate yourself.

These are the things that matter. So long as you keep improving your actions, the results will follow. Plus, this actually gives you a more accurate idea of progress because what your weight says on a given day doesn’t necessarily reflect how close you are to long term results.

For example, you could go out drinking the night before and see the scale go down. Or you could do a hard workout and see the scale go up. Which one do you think is better for weight loss?

Action is everything. Additionally, when you develop your focus, you’re less vulnerable to the distractions of shiny objects.

When you focus and celebrate your actions, those actions are more likely to become habit. And habits equal results that stick.

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5 Diet Myths

The diet and weight loss industry reaches far and wide. All you have to do is reach out with your fingertips to find troves of people and companies who are more than willing to share with you their secrets, methods, formulas, and plans.

Some actually work. Some dietary plans have a strong foundational basis which prove beneficial, while others include some myths, wives tales, and bro-science that are just plain harmful.

  • Fad Diets will help you lose weight…. And keep it off.
  • Lifting weights will cause me to bulk up.
  • Eating after 6 p.m. leads to weight gain.
  • Natural or herbal weight loss products are safe.
  • Low fat or no fat = no calories.

Not True

  • False
  • False
  • False
  • False
  • And False

It really is that simple

Fad diets are popular for the same reason consumerism is highly popular. There is someone somewhere peddling their ideas of what works and what doesn’t. Every fad diet is based on some sort of restriction, exclusion, or taboo food group or macronutrient (which we’ll get to in just a moment). They promise quick results, which we all buy into. We want to lose those extra vanity pounds, or maybe those extra not-so vanity pounds, and we want to lose them quickly.

The fact of the matter is that fad diets will often kick our bodies into starvation mode. Simply put, we didn’t evolve as a species by eating the “healthiest” of foods, and certainly not by modern standards. Biologically, we evolved to eat foods to survive. Our ancestors were, for a very long time, always one meal short of starvation. When our bodies are starving, they’re storing every single thing they can for use later.

We see this on NatGeo or Ourplanetdaily with Polar bears, and sea lions. Homo sapiens may be more intellectually self-aware, but biologically, the concept applies. The statement “fad diets will help you lose weight and keep it off,” is false because of the “keep it off part.”

It’s true that the Atkins diet, the Mediterranean diet, and the mustard diet will help you lose weight in the same way a polar bear loses most of its body mass during hibernation. However, once you come off that diet, like a bear exiting the den, your body will go into survival mode. If you’ve never experienced this, it’s quite interesting.

You see foods you normally despise, or distrust and you feel a deep biological pull to destroy by consumption. You become a ravenous beast as you plow through the loaves of bread and boxes of doughnuts because your body knows that it’s been starved of these foods for a while.

Even if you don’t “choose” to leave the den, or come off your diet, you brain will eventually win out over your self-control and you’ll binge. Then the interesting thing happens. You’re eating again.

You’re not starving any more. Having been in starvation mode, your body will furiously pack every micro bit of nutrients, fat, and carbs into your body somewhere to save for the next time you enter starvation mode like a scrat burying his prized acorn.

As a result, most dieters- more than 90%- gain back most of their lost weight. Much of the time, they gain it all back, or all plus some.

Lifting weights is often seen as a way to bulk up. For most men and some women this is true. However, bulking up like those competition lifters we see on bodybuilding dot com takes concerted effort, hours a day of training, and serious focus. Unless that’s what you’re specifically going for, you’re not in danger of being a woman who looks like a man mid roid-rage.

However, built muscle has three primary benefits.

  • Muscle burns more fat, lending higher caloric burn during workout the more muscle you have
  • Shapes your body
  • Weighs more than fat while taking up less space

Choosing to not eat after a certain time of the evening can have unintended negative consequences. Remember above where we talked about what the human body does in response to starvation mode?

Well, this idea of not eating after 6 p.m. is not really in line with modern demands. Many people don’t get home until after 6 p.m. Some not even before 8 p.m. This leaves two options:

  • Eat greasy and unhealthy fast food
  • Starve

What are the consequences of both or either of those options? If you choose to go without dinner and go to bed starving, any meal you eat after will provide more nuts for scrat to horde (so to speak).

Natural or herbal weight loss supplements are neither necessarily safe nor unsafe. A couple of decades into recent history makes this point. At one point, ladies in the neighborhood were popping ephedra like it was the second coming only to find out that people were dying.

Ephedra, like arsenic, is natural. But it’s just not safe. No natural or herbal remedies are monitored by the FDA and should be approached with extreme caution.

Finally, this idea that no fat or low fat equals no calories is false. Calories are a unit of measure kind of like a Cup or kilowatt hour. They’re used as a way to measure the fuel a certain food can provide your body. Fat comes to 9 grams per calorie.

Carbohydrates and Proteins come to 4 grams per calorie, and alcohol is 7. Your four macronutrients are Fat, Carbohydrate, Protein, and Alcohol, and these have to balance out in some way.

Chances are that if you have a food that is low in fat, or has no fat, the difference is made up in carbohydrates, or proteins.

Remember, there is a lot of bro-science, and myth roaming around out there. Look for more than one source of information that can provide their own resources. Also, if it sounds like a miracle or if it’s a “little known secret” run.

5 Mental Challenges to Weight Loss

Physiologically, weight loss comes from exercising and minding what you eat. However, there is a huge mental component to it as well. Losing weight and keeping it off is a lifestyle change and it requires some mental agility as well as tenacity.

There are at least five key mental challenges to weight loss, but they can be overcome to move you toward a happier and healthier life.

  1. You Have to Want it

The first great mental challenge to weight loss is that it has to be something that you want. No one can lose the weight for you and losing weight and keeping it off takes time and dedication. It’s much easier to put in that time and dedication if losing weight and keeping it off is personally important to you.

  1. Social Stigma

Another mental challenge comes, at least in part, from the social stigma that is associated with being overweight. The way that most people talk about weight gain and weight loss, it can be easy for the individual to feel like carrying extra weight makes them bad people.

When people feel like others are chastising them for things, we get defensive. This can make us not want to do things even if those things are good for us.

The best way for people to get over this mental challenge to weight loss is to have their own reason to want to lose weight. If an one has one’s own reasons it becomes easier to ignore those around them. This can make it feel like the individual is working for their own good rather than because someone else thinks that they should.

  1. Breaking Bad Habits

One mental challenge comes from the fact that most people who carry extra weight do so because of habits that have made it easy for them to gain weight and hard for them to lose it.

In order to lose the weight and then keep it off, these habits need to be broken. This can be a very difficult step.

  1. Building Good Habits

A closely related mental challenge comes from building new good habits. Just like weight gain often results from unhealthy habits, losing weight is best done through developing healthy habits.

Developing these new habits can be very difficult. It will take effort, dedication and commitment, as well as earnestly setting your mind to do so.

  1. Facts and Figures

A final mental challenge has to do with the fact that, if you aren’t used to eating right and exercising, it can be mentally tasking. It’s much easier to not exercise and to eat poorly than it is to make careful decisions about what to eat and to exercise in a healthy way without overexerting.

The good news is that in many cases, individuals begin weight loss plans because of their health. That their health is a problem is, of course, bad news, but it also puts them in close communication with health care experts. These health care experts can help them to navigate the complicated worlds of diet and safe exercise.

Further, information has never been more prevalent and readily available. While it is good that this information is so readily available, sorting through it and absorbing it are still difficult tasks.

There are some pretty significant physical challenges to lasting weight loss. However, there are also some key mental challenges to weight loss as well. Understanding these challenges can help people struggling with their weight to understand what they can do to achieve weight loss. It can also help those who have a loved one that is trying to lose weight to understand that this is a more difficult challenge than many realize.

It can be far too easy for people of a healthy weight to take their health for granted. This taints their understanding, but it also makes things harder on individuals trying to lose weight and putting up with social stigma and a lack of understanding.

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Psychological Hunger 5 signs to Know

There are many reasons that you eat, but not all of these have to do with the physical need for food. In fact, many of the motivations that cause you to reach for a snack or eat more have nothing to do with your nutritional needs and everything to do with your mental and emotional desires.

And learning the difference between psychological and physical hunger can help you stay on track and make healthier choices in your diet.

What is Psychological Hunger?

There is no physical need for survival when it comes to psychological hunger. Instead of eating to keep your body alive, you are eating to satisfy a desire, unmet need, or emotional upset that your mind has convinced you the food will help resolve. You eat because you are bored, lonely, or unfulfilled, not because you physically require food.

Psychological hunger is about filling a void in your heart or mind, but unfortunately, no matter how much or what you eat, that void cannot be filled by food. This type of eating behavior can lead to excess weight, more psychological strain, and a vicious cycle that is hard to break.

How can you identify if you are eating out of mental or emotional need rather than physical hunger? Here are five signs that you’re eating habits are coming from your mind, not your stomach.

Your Hunger is Not in Your Belly

Want to know if you are really hungry or eating for another purpose? Try this. The next time you go to eat, stop and stand still for a minute. Think about which part of your body is demanding attention. Where are you feeling hungry? Place your hand over the area that is “talking” to you. If you put your hand on your stomach, then you are physically hungry, but if you hand lands on your head, heart, or somewhere else, then you are eating to satisfy a different need.

Your Stomach is Not Empty

The next time you decide it is time for a snack or meal, take a minute to consider your hunger level. If you were to rate how physically hungry you are, with 1 being absolutely starving, 5 being satisfied, and 10 being completely stuffed, how hungry are you right now? If your hunger ranks between 1 and 4, then it is time to eat. If you rate is higher than 5, then you are not eating for physical reasons, so ask yourself what you are trying to fulfill instead.

You Crave Specific Foods

If you are hungry for a specific food, especially if that food is high in fat, salt, or sugar, then you are likely not eating for any physical need. After all, physical hunger is about nutrition, so if you are hungry, then a healthy salad or piece of fruit will satisfy your requirement. But if your hunger is demanding chocolate, French fries, or some other indulgence, then you should look elsewhere to satisfy your cravings.

You Feel Hungry Very Quickly

Physical hunger comes on very slowly, building over time as your belly empties and your physical need sets in. Emotional or mental hunger often strikes without warning, hitting you with an urgency that demands attention and focus. If you find that you are suddenly starving without notice, ask yourself what just happened to trigger this intense need. What preceded this change in your hunger? Often, this will give you a clue as to the real source of your hunger.

Your Hunger Disappears without Food

If you are eating not long after your last meal, your hunger may be more mental than physical. After all, with food in your stomach, how likely are you to still have physical, nutritional needs? Before taking another but, sit quietly and reflect. Feel your hunger.

Rate your void. Is your stomach still rumbling or achy? Do you still feel pangs?

If so, then you may need more to eat, but wait 20 minutes and see how you feel. If, after that time, you still feel empty or like you need more food, then it is okay to eat more. But often, waiting just a little while will be all you need to feel full again.

Learning to differentiate between physical and mental hunger can help you to curb your cravings and get your eating under control. It is the key to releasing yourself from the emotional patterns that guide your consumption and enables you to focus you’re eating on the nutrition your body needs and deserves.



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