Going on a keto diet is easier than you think

A lot of people give themselves all sorts of reasons why they should not go on a diet. Believe me, I understand this process. After all, you’ve grown accustomed to eating what you like to eat and living the way you want to live.

Change, for most of us human beings, is very hard. It’s not like we don’t understand why we need to change. Usually, this isn’t the case where we are unclear as to the benefits of changing, but let me be clear, desiring change is one thing, actually going through with it is another matter entirely.

It’s too easy to just stick with what you know. It’s too easy to just continue down the path you’re on, but the problem is if you have gone diet after diet and nothing seems to work, and you know that your current meal plans are not doing you any favors, you’re going to have to step up. You’re going to have to pull the trigger at some point and go on the keto diet if you’ve been meaning to for all this time.

Transitioning is not as hard as you think

Here’s some good news; believe it or not, there are many food items that you already enjoy that are already keto complaint. In other words, you only need to focus on certain food items that are already on your meal plan and supplement it with other keto compliant foods. That’s all you need to do to switch over.

There is no ordeal, there is no black-and-white, do or die type of moment, there’s none of that. It really all boils down to building on what you already have. Maybe you like eating pork rinds. Maybe you are partial to butter. Maybe you love cream cheese. Perhaps you have a particular liking for avocado.

All of these are keto compliant ingredients, you just need to build up on them. A lot of people are unclear about this, and this is why they think that the keto diet is some sort of magical door; dark, forbidding, distant, and they feel that they have to step onto it carefully, and then it’s a big momentous life decision to go through. It’s actually easier than you think, because you are already keto compliant at some level or another. For some people, they are more keto compliant than others.

For example, maybe you just like a few eggs, and then everything else is carb-rich or sugary. On the other hand, maybe have a buddy who is already eating a lot of greasy, fatty foods, and really isn’t all that interested in rice, bread, or potatoes. That person will have an easier time transitioning, but you already have the “seeds” of the keto diet in your current meal plan.

It’s all about supplementing what you already have

One of the most common mistakes people make when they go on a diet, is that they feel that they have to turn their back completely on their old way of eating. They feel that they have to completely forget all the things that they used to eat so they can discover and adopt a whole new laundry list of dishes.

This is completely wrong, because if you play the game this way, you are going to fail again, and again, and again. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. The truth is, you have to work with what you have. Add to your meal plan instead of taking stuff off.

When you focus on the things that you’re adding, your taste buds slowly begin to change. Stuff that used to be high priority for you, fall off your priority list. Sooner or later, you transition to a completely keto-compliant diet.

It all boils down to focus. Don’t give yourself any excuses to fail by cutting out foods entirely. Instead, supplement your meal plan and focus on the new keto items. This way, you train your taste buds on a gradual basis so you can eventually transition completely to the keto diet.

Now for some people, this can happen in a very short period of time; congratulations to them. But even if you are the type of person that can take a while to change your taste profile, that’s fine too. Don’t put yourself on some sort of timeline. Don’t think that this is some sort of race.

You’re not trying to impress other people. You’re not trying to put on a show for others. You’re doing this for yourself. If your timeline is a little bit longer, then that’s fine. If you can speed things up, that’s even better.

What’s important is you don’t put any unnecessary pressure on yourself. It’s hard enough changing, don’t adopt some sort of air of desperation; don’t add that to the mix. If you’re able to do to focus on what you have, and build on the keto foods that you are already eating and enjoying, then you will have an easier ride.

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K Holistic Therapy do not endorse any diet program. This article is for information and educational purposes.




The egg is your keto eating best friend

Let’s face it, for many decades now, the egg as humble as it may look, has been demonized. There’s really no other word that does justice to what so-called dietary experts and healthcare professionals have done to the egg.

Think about it, for hundreds, if not thousands of years, people have relied on the simple chicken egg for a decent chunk of their daily sustenance. It’s easy to see why; eggs are normally cheap. They’re very compact. They’re very portable. They are also very adaptable and versatile.

You can  turn them into souffle’s. You can make omelettes. You can bake them into a wide range of dishes. You can add them as a firming ingredient. You can use it as a binder. You can also separate it between egg whites and egg yolk. There’s just so many things you could do with the egg.

It is really quite a shame that for such a long time, we have been told that the egg is really bad for us. This is due to the fact that there has been such a tremendous amount of misconceptions regarding cholesterol.

Well, thanks to research within the past 10 years, we now have a clear and accurate view of the egg’s effect on the human health. What is a new consensus? It turns out that the egg, while loaded with cholesterol, is actually good for us.

It not only contains a long laundry list of vitamins and nutrients and minerals, It also has a very small calorie footprint. It is also loaded with fat that makes you feel fuller for a longer period of time.

It really is quite sad that the egg, along with dietary fat and cholesterol, have been demonized throughout all these years. The reason for this, of course, is that people were distracted from looking at the real culprit.

There is a real culprit behind America’s and Britain’s ever-expanding waistline. There is a biochemical compound to blame for the obesity epidemic that is gripping the United States, the European Union, and all other areas of the world where there is a large middle class.

This dietary culprit, of course, is sugar, also known as carbohydrates. That steaming bowl of rice that you’re enjoying, or that pile of mashed potatoes, or stack of bread that you normally love to eat, they can actually cause more damage to your system than fat.

The reason for this, of course, is that people tend to eat more carbohydrates, and carbohydrates are very inflammatory. When you look at the molecular structure of carbohydrates, it is easy to see why. There are so many attraction points on the surface of carbohydrates that they soak up a tremendous amount of water.

When you eat a lot of carbs, your body soaks up a tremendous amount of water. I wish I could tell you that this is harmless; it isn’t. When you have all that water in your blood, in your skin, and also affecting your nervous system, you get inflamed.

Inflammation is bad news. Not only do you develop bad skin, or you’re more susceptible to pimples, and other skin blemishes, as well as wrinkles, you are also prematurely aging your body. You’re putting a tremendous amount of pressure on your bloodstream, and this translates to high blood pressure and other cardiovascular issues. I can go on and on.

Arising above all of this is the humble egg. The egg has been unfairly demonized throughout the years, but the truth is, the egg is one of our dietary best friends. It definitely should be your best friend if you adopt the keto diet.

It packs a lot of clean protein, which is vital for tissue building and regeneration. It also has a low-calorie footprint, and since it’s loaded with fat, it can make you feel fuller for a longer period of time.

Rediscover the egg today. If you want to switch to the keto eating plan , click here for a blueprint that will enable you to do so quickly and safely. Hint: The egg is part of the plan. Eating more eggs is part of the plan.


Keto Success 1

To begin this series of articles on the keto eating regime, I think it is very important to begin by discussing the correct mindset. It is the single most impotant issue for success in any undertaking. So let’s delve in!

3 basic mindsets that ensure keto eating success

I don’t know many diets you’ve been through, but let me tell you, if you don’t have the right mindset, chances are you’re not going to succeed. In fact, if you’re like most people, your experience will fit a very familiar pattern. First, you’re all excited about the diet and sure enough, you follow the directions very closely.

Thanks to your careful dietary guidelines, and your eager compliance, you start losing a lot of pounds. So far so good, right? This keeps up for maybe a few more days or even a few more weeks. But sooner or later, the pounds start coming back.

Next, things go from bad to worse. You start gaining more weight than when you began your diet. Isn’t the whole point of going on a diet to lose weight? Sadly, most diets are gateways, believe it or not, to additional weight; talk about a frustrating situation.

The reason why people go through this all too familiar tragic pattern is because they don’t have the right mindset. It doesn’t matter whether you are trying to adopt the keto diet, the paleo diet, the Atkins diet, the Ornish, or any other loss program, without the right mindset, you are playing the game to lose.

At the very least, you should adopt three basic mindsets that will ensure keto eating success.

Mindset #1

Assume that you can do it

It’s very easy to get excited about the testimonials included in many diet books. You look at the before-and-after pictures and you and you get all pumped up. Please understand that a lot of those pictures are exaggerated. In fact, a lot of books that are very shady even use photoshopped pictures.

I know it’s shocking. I know that it’s hard to believe that people would actually do that, but they do. So a little bit of skepticism goes a long way. Still, don’t just focus on the fact that the diet can work for other people. Instead, wrap your mind around the possibility that the keto plan can actually work for you.

That’s right, you personally, individually. If you can’t understand that, and if you can’t accept the likelihood of a certain weight-loss program waiting for you, then you’re making things much harder on yourself. It’s like trying to play basketball and trying to put the ball through the hoop.

If in the back of your head you’re saying to yourself, “Other people can shoot really well, but not me,” what do you think will happen? You’re shooting accuracy will go down. You’re sabotaging yourself. You’re making things unnecessarily harder on yourself.

This is why it’s really important to assume that you can achieve success with the keto diet. Not the case study pictures, not the people giving testimonials, we are talking about you. If you can’t make this assumption, then it’s going to be a rough road ahead for you.

Mindset #2

Begin with what you have

One common reason why people fail with diets is because they think that they have to transform into a completely different person. Alternatively, they believe that their circumstances or their situations need to change so dramatically so as to ensure success.

When people think along these lines, they’re basically just giving themselves excuses for either not trying, or for expecting bad results. Believe me, I can understand why people do this. If you have been let down by diet after diet, it’s very easy to become jaded.

In fact, in many cases, it’s very easy to expect failure. After all, you’ve gone through the familiar process of initially losing weight, and then getting it all back. It becomes an old story, and it’s only a matter of time until your heart gets broken again.

This is why you think that you should change everything that you can possibly change, to lay the groundwork for ultimate success. Again, you’re making things unnecessarily harder on yourself. It doesn’t have to be like this. You don’t have to move heaven and earth to create optimal conditions.

You know why? Conditions are never perfect. There will never be a time when your circumstances will be just right for you to ensure success. You’re going to have to take that risk. You’re going to have to begin with what you have.

It doesn’t matter what discipline level you have. It doesn’t matter what else is going on in your life. It doesn’t matter whether you feel good about yourself. All that matters is that you are ready, willing and able to begin with what you have and assume that this will work for you.

Mindset #3

Enjoy your food according to rules you choose

Another key “pillar” for keto eating success involves the issue of control. A lot of people fail with diets because they think that they are putting some sort of dietary straitjacket on themselves. For instance, they don’t normally like a certain taste, but since they’re switching over to a new diet, they force themselves to like a certain range of flavors.

Let me tell you, it’s only a matter of time until your old self rears its ugly head. It’s only a matter time until you go back to how you normally eat. This is a very frustrating situation. It’s as if you are doing really well, and you’re making all these changes, and all of a sudden your old self pulls you back. You end up where you began.

This is why it’s really important to focus on enjoying your food. This is not an ordeal. This is not some sort of punishment. This is not some sort of situation where you feel that you are denying yourself. Instead, the keto diet should be a celebration of taste. It all really boils down to enjoying your food according to keto rules.

You have to first choose the keto rules. You have to first choose to go on the diet, and then you select based on your existing tastes. There’s no need to become somebody else. There’s no need to change your taste buds. There’s no need to go through any of that. Instead, allow yourself to enjoy the flavor range that you are already enjoying.

Now here’s the thing, even if you have a sweet tooth, you’re going to have to minimize that. That’s the only change, but for everything else, whether you like sour foods, salty foods, or definitely fatty foods, you should be fine. But as long as you manage your sweet tooth, you should be okay.

Keep atop the mindsets above if you want to be successful with the keto eating plan. I’m not going to lie and say that you can adopt these mindsets overnight. After all, the way you see things, and the way you expect things to play out, have been with you for a long time. You’ve grown accustomed to thinking about food a certain way.

But if you change your mindset according to the 3 key pillars above, adopting the keto eating regime will become easier, and it is more likely to stick.

More articles to come in the following days. Have a great day



Understanding The Link Between Healthy Emotions and a Strong Psychology

The mind-body relationship is becoming clearer thanks to the advent of modern science. Likewise, the link between our thoughts and our emotions are also becoming better known. Research has demonstrated an obvious correlation between good emotions and a strong psychology.

The Circle

Our thoughts and our emotions both form a circle reinforcing the other. Negative thoughts will generate emotions of a similar nature and these emotions will then result in more negative thoughts. This forms a vicious pattern that is most clearly observed in patients suffering from PTSD and other traumas. It is very difficult for these people to break free, and the events keep recurring in their minds.

Over time, such patients heal to an extent. The main way to heal is gradually, as these patients can focus their energies on things that they enjoy so that the memories fail to repeat themselves and lose some of their previous force.  Calming therapeutic modalities work over time to gently alleviate these traumas. However, modern society is anything but therapeutic.

On the other hand, healthy emotions are linked with successful and a powerful psychology. People who are happier have more success and better interpersonal relationships. They have better concentration, memory, and social skills. It is far easier to be successful when you have a positive emotional framework as a foundation than to be struggling internally.


How to Manage The Relationship

Everybody is in a situation where they need to better manage their thoughts and emotions. It takes some time, but there are proven ways to reinforce the strengths of our thoughts and emotions. These include:


  1. Meditation
  2. Mindfulness
  3. Deep Communication
  4. Creative Work


Meditation and mindfulness are practices where we simply observe what is happening in our minds. This is very beneficial in a world that is so externally orientated. We can observe how we feel and how these thoughts stimulate certain emotions. Over time, we can catch the negative thoughts before they gain too much momentum and ruin the whole day.

Deep communication is another technique where we work with a therapist or practitioner to document and analyze our own patterns for further insights.

Creative work is about self-expression. An intense dedication to creative work is an excellent way to remove any negative tendencies. What can happen is that we are so focused on artistic inventions that we are not focusing any of our energies on the things that make us weak. This works far more quickly than meditation and mindfulness if we can find something that we are truly passionate about.

If You Don’t Love Yourself, No One Else Can Either

Whether you want a fulfilling romantic relationship or just a circle of supportive friends, loving yourself is the first step to attracting what you deserve.

While it may seem counterproductive to focus on yourself while trying to develop lasting relationships, it’s the only way you’ll have healthy relationships. Let’s consider why.

You Don’t Tolerate Toxic Behavior

When you truly love yourself, you value your peace. You don’t engage in unnecessary drama, nor do you bring that sort of energy into your life. This mentality transcends into who you choose to associate with.

If you value yourself, you won’t be entertained by the shenanigans of toxic people. In fact, you’ll likely be turned off. Learn how to value your inner peace and you’ll attract those who bring that peace to you.

You Know Your Worth

Someone who loves themselves understands what they bring to the table. They’re confident in their abilities, strengths, and traits. In turn, they expect those same characteristics in those they choose to surround themselves with.

Unfortunately, individuals with a low self-worth may not see what they have to offer. Therefore, they allow others to feed off of this insecurity. This could lead to unhealthy relationships and a never-ending cycle of low-self-esteem.

Really see your self-value by understanding your strengths. By focusing on your positive aspects, you won’t accept anything less from others. This will help you avoid individuals who don’t have your best interests at heart.

You Aren’t Easily Intimidated

Loving yourself means having a healthy sense of what you’re capable of. When others see that confidence, they instantly believe it. They know you’re equipped to handle any obstacle or task that comes your way. This makes it easier for others to respect your actions and choices.

If you have a hard time believing in yourself, it creates doubt in others as well. They may find it hard to trust you or take you seriously. Therefore, find your inner confidence and flaunt it. This will help you gain the respect of yourself and your actions will follow.

How Can I Love Myself?

Loving yourself involves more than consistent grooming and shopping sprees. While physical aspects play a major role in self-care, they make up only a fraction of what true self-love really is.

If you want to truly love yourself, focus on your positive qualities. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • How do I treat people?
  • What makes me a good person?
  • What are my strengths?
  • What do I love about myself?

By focusing on what you excel in, you’re training your brain to think positively. This will help you silence those negative voices and view yourself in a new light.

Key Points to Remember

While learning how to love yourself plays a major role in how others will treat you, it’s important to keep approval in its place. Everyone wants to be accepted and liked. However, don’t let that become your primary focus. Measuring your happiness on how much others like you will make you a slave to their perspective.

Instead, practice kindness but don’t value yourself based on the opinions of others. Once you begin to place your needs, concerns, and opinions at the forefront, you’ll see that rejection and disapproval isn’t really that scary.

If you’re struggling to find the right circle of friends or your ideal partner, perhaps re-shift your focus to yourself. Instead of placing unnecessary energy on how to gain the approval of others, build your self-love catalog. When the time is right, you’ll attract those who will know how to treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

6 Steps To Build Self-Compassion

When the voice that’s inside your head starts to become your most prominent critic and worst advocate, it may be time for you to learn a little self-compassion. Learning to care about yourself and be compassionate toward your feelings and needs is a sign that you value yourself and want to nurture your happiness in life.

Consider what it would be like to be stranded on a deserted island with one other person. Would it be important to you that you and that person cared for and supported one another along your trials and journey? Would it be worth the effort to learn how to get along with each other and create a positive relationship? Well, that inner voice is your partner on the island of your life, so it’s time you started making friends with one another!

Ways to Build Your Self-Compassion

1. Be Kind to Your Inner Child

No matter your age, you can still feel hurt, disappointment, and shame. When you recognize these emotions in a child, you understand they need kindness and compassion. So why, when you see those same feelings in yourself, do you deny yourself the same consideration? Treat yourself as you would any small child in need of caring and support, especially when things are hard.

  1. Write Yourself a Permission Slip

The basis of self-compassion is allowing yourself to be flawed and imperfect, just like every other human on the planet. While you may not be perfect, no one expects you to be, so why do you expect it of yourself? Write yourself a mental permission slip, and the next time you make a mistake, cash it in without regret. Recognize that it’s ok to slip up now and then, as long as you continue to learn and grow from the experience.

  1. Forgive

Punishing yourself for your mistakes and flaws is a sure sign you lack self-compassion. When you punish your future for mistakes you made in the past, you are only setting yourself up for more disappointment and heartache. Start by forgiving and moving on from all your past transgressions. If it helps, write a letter to yourself expressing your forgiveness, to help you move on and let go.

  1. Be mindful.

Listen and pay attention to that inner voice, that harsh self-critic that is always offering his or her opinion. Become mindful of when that voice chimes in and the words it uses. Becoming aware of that inner critic is necessary if you want to truly silence it once and for all. The next time you hear it, fight back. Argue instead for why you are worthy or capable. Demand to know where that voice gets the right to be so cruel and heartless toward you.

  1. Embrace Challenges

Every obstacle and setback in your life is a chance to learn more and become better. Adopting a growth mindset, one that views failures and challenges as learning experiences rather than mistakes to regret, is key to developing a more compassionate attitude toward yourself. Find inspiration in your mistakes, which are helping you to grow stronger every day.

  1. Be Grateful

Instead of focusing on the negative, try embracing gratitude. Acknowledge your strengths. Pay attention to the many gifts and blessings of your life. Focus on what is going well, and you will start to feel more loving toward yourself for the bountiful life you have.

Final Thoughts

Learning to comfort yourself, nurture and care for your body and mind, and express your appreciation toward yourself are all beneficial for building your self-compassion, as well. Learning to love yourself will have an immense impact on your relationships with others but, more importantly, it will allow you to have a healthy, loving relationship with yourself.



The Connection between High Self-Esteem and Motivation to Thrive

Having courage in your own abilities despite their expansive or limited scale is a strategic psychological attribute to have. It enables you to try out new things hence expanding your knowledge base. The more you try the more you attract success and with every success recorded your self-esteem grows.

Other than being a magnet for success high self-esteem also sustain good relationships enabling one to have an active social life. From this one can draw a good support system to facilitate them to power through tough conditions and thrive.

Low self-esteem on other hand makes people live below their potential and lack the motivation to try new things. This ultimately leads to a mediocre life with no notable success due to the general lack of motivation.

Practicing Self-motivation with a Sustainable Self-esteem

Self-motivation is an important element for people seeking high levels of success in their professional careers, academics and in attaining optimal health. Self-motivation plays an active role when someone is faced with challenges or setbacks. Failure is inevitable in the course of one’s life and without the proper tools to keep you in the right frame of mind, it becomes hard to pick yourself up from it.

Good self-esteem does not inflate an individual’s ego, but it serves to reinforce their will in life to rise above all odds. In the quest to develop a persistent motivation to thrive you must train yourself with the following techniques.

Good Health Practices Above All Other Things

It is hard to find the motivation to thrive with deteriorating health. People with high self-esteem go the extra mile to guarantee that they are in the best mental, emotional and physical state. This prompts them to maintain wholesome diets with all the essential elements with minimal consumption of processed and junk food.

A proper full body exercise routine is also preferential in keeping the body in shape. Always remember that looking good interprets to feeling good about yourself.

Take Advantage of Your Personal Strengths

You will be sure of yourself if you already know your strong points before embarking on any venture. Knowing your individual talents and list of resources at your disposal helps you make informed decisions and keeps you motivated. When compared to individuals who take blind chances, the chances for success are reduced and they are constantly faced with surprise elements that leave their motivation in shambles.

Practicing Humility

Being humble saves you from negative energy that would make you a target for people with bad intentions. If you want to sustain your drive to succeed stay away from conceited influences as it makes you less likable in any social circle.

Part of your journey to success is facilitated by the secondary support you get from friends and loved ones. Humility endears you to others which is good for business. Pride can be viewed as a projection of a burning need inside you to be validated in a certain regard. Insecurities do not promote a healthy development of self-esteem.

Appreciate the Little Wins

Long-term success is as a result of collective achievements realized through your highs and lows of your entire journey. You will definitely feel the brunt of failure so take time to bask in the warmth of every achievement you record. This keeps you psyched and strokes your self-esteem to aim even higher.

Another important aspect to keep you in the right track is working with clear goals and a well-developed plan. Have principles that guide you professionally and informally and people will respect you for this particular attribute.

With a persona that many can relate to it becomes easy for people to associate with you or your brand. At the end of the day do not forget to reward your efforts as this feeds your motivation and powers your self-esteem.


Do You Like Yourself?

How often do you think, “I wish I could change this about myself,” or “Why can’t I be better at that?” If you are always looking for ways to improve your appearance or personality, better your skills, or perfect yourself, it may be time to ponder how much you actually like yourself.

When you spend the majority of your time thinking about how you “could” be, instead of being happy with the way you currently are, there’s a good chance you are lacking in compassion for yourself. And when you feel this way, it means you are not comfortable with or do not accept yourself as you are. This is, unfortunately, a sign of low self-esteem.

Why It’s Important to Like Yourself

If you have positive self-esteem, that means that you accept yourself, just as you are, not how you “may” be some day. High self-esteem doesn’t mean you can’t be sometimes critical of yourself or that you should never evolve and change. But, having high self-esteem means you are capable of being happy while also being flawed, and that you recognize that life is about growing and changing, not perfecting oneself.

Self-acceptance is an important part of your mental well-being. It is strongly correlated to self-understanding, being able to empathize with others, and having a strong peace of mind. When you are able to lift the restrictions, you place on the love you have for yourself, you can accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all.

When you cannot accept yourself and no longer like yourself, you are more likely to feel chronically anxious. You are also more likely to worry about your shortcomings, to avoid circumstances that may reveal your perceived shortfalls, or to shy away from relationships.

Liking yourself means you don’t spend too much time ruminating on your mistakes or failures, which means you can bounce back more easily when faced with obstacles. You accept that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and you are doing your best to be the best person you know how to be.

Where Does Self-Hate Come From?

Whether you call it self-hatred or self-loathing, when you don’t like yourself, it has a powerful influence on your mental and emotional health. But where do these feeling come from? From early on, we are taught what to value and believe in our lives. When we grasp, at a young age, onto a notion that we are unworthy of love or happiness, this often leads to feelings of self-loathing later in life.

Those early experiences act much like a boulder does when it rolls down a hill. They pick up steam along the way, gathering up more “evidence” of your shortcomings or unworthiness, solidifying in your mind the reasons why you shouldn’t accept or like yourself all that much. And over time, it becomes harder to shake those off, as the boulder has grown too large to move on your own.

Learning to Like Yourself

If you want to learn to accept yourself for who you are, you have to earn your respect. You must embody your values and beliefs, living a life that exemplifies the characteristics you most value on the inside. Your self-esteem is founded upon your internal qualities and traits, not what’s on the outside. Focus on developing this, and the rest will fall into place.

Treat others well, too. Care for others, and you will soon notice that you feel better about yourself. When you focus on the needs of others, you start to also listen to the fundamental needs of yourself.

Learning to like yourself is about developing acceptance. And when you accept who you are, you will open the door to possibilities that only high self-esteem and self-love can unlock.


Self Esteem and Happiness

There is a correlation between self-esteem and happiness in that they’re almost interdependent. They’re very similar because both of them don’t necessarily depend on material possessions, status or how much you have in the bank, each depends on your stream of consciousness and thoughts, which means they both originate from somewhere inside of us.

We may think one, or the two, are affected by the people we interact with in our daily lives, but that’s not true. Your level of joy and self-confidence are triggers that prompt reactions, rather than being reaction themselves.

You’ll realize this when you gain a sense of individuality. You have opinions about things, you stop seeking validation from others on a constant basis, and you stop sabotaging your own ideas and actions.

It’s important to note that having a high sense of self-validation and being happy with your life doesn’t mean things won’t go wrong. Everyone has problems. It’s called life.

The difference between happy and not-so-happy people is that they use problems to their advantage. By turning obstacles into tools, you can break down barriers and open up new opportunities, rather than think about the negative and beat yourself up about it. And, through this simple act of perseverance, you can forgive yourself and start liking yourself more for who you are on the inside.

We tend to treat ourselves worse than any stranger would. We don’t accept missteps or failures; we give ourselves a hard time over things that turn out, eventually, to be molehills rather than mountains. A big part of that is that society holds us to an unattainable standard to measure up to. And it’s not just society; we do it to ourselves as well.

We want to look, act, and smell and do everything perfect. But that’s physically impossible. Plus, we procrastinate because we’re afraid of trying and failing to reach perfection, so we’d rather not do it at all. That’s not living up to your potential, and it leads to unhappiness, lack of self-discipline and low self-worth

Another word for self-esteem is worth. How much you value your importance and worth is, in a nutshell, the measure of your self-esteem. It’s very important because it influences many of your decisions and choices. When you have a clear notion of your purpose and what you believe in, you learn to respect yourself and your values.

And by acting on that sense of respect, you begin to feel that you are, in fact, valuable. By adhering to your values, you increase, not only your sense of worth, but your self-confidence, self-respect, and contentment levels soar as well.

Being confident gives you the opportunity to explore your full potential, learn new things and take care of your health. You become efficient in all areas of your life. You have the confidence to plan out goals and aspirations and are constantly striving to fulfill them.

You appreciate each of life’s little successes because you know you’ve earned them. Enjoying such a well-developed, well-balanced lifestyle spurs on a sense of gratification.

Enjoying a healthy dose of values gives you the strength to do things you enjoy and be your own person. You’re more comfortable with who you are and tend to gravitate to others who feel the same, mainly because when you’re confident about who you are, you’re a more social being.

You enjoy meeting new people, helping others, talking to friends and family more often. This human interaction that goes beyond a screen bolsters you and gives you the freedom to see the world in a more positive light.

While there are other aspects to living a happy life other than high self-esteem, it is definitely one of the basic building blocks to getting there. Happiness is a multi-faceted element of our life and every little bit counts.

So, while having a healthy dose of self-esteem doesn’t guarantee happiness, it certainly goes a long way in providing the necessary tools to enjoying a life of happiness and well-being.

The Connection Between Self-Esteem and Healthy Relationships

The research on the connections between self-esteem and relationship satisfaction is quite extensive. Not only does your self-esteem influence how you think about yourself, but it also plays a role in your ability to receive and accept love from others. It even plays a role in how you treat others in your life, particularly romantic partners.

When you enter into a relationship with lower self-esteem, you are more likely to feel greater dissatisfaction over time, and your partner is likely to become unhappier, as well. Your self-esteem is born from early life experiences and continues to develop over time.

If your most initial relationships were unhealthy, used unhealthy communication styles, or resulted in abuse or neglect, this influenced your self-esteem as well as your thoughts about loving relationships.

But how does how we feel about ourselves influence how we interact with and connect to others? As it turns out, in many ways. Here are just a few of the significant connections between self-esteem and a healthy relationship.

Self-Esteem Influences Attachment

When you have low self-esteem or insecurity, it influences how you attach to others. Depending on how your self-esteem issues developed and when, you may have either avoidance or anxiety issues that make it hard for you to connect with others.

At one end of this spectrum, your self-esteem issues may cause you to distance yourself from others, ignore your partner, dismiss others’ feelings toward you, and even do things to hurt your partner. This stems from your belief that someone else could not possibly love you, so you should protect yourself from the inevitable hurt they will bestow upon you.

Alternatively, your low self-esteem may make you extremely anxious about how others’ feel, causing you to be preoccupied with their behaviors. You may become clingy or overly needy towards others because you are sure they will leave you at any moment.

Self-Esteem Guides Communication

Effective communication in a relationship is crucial, and when you lack the ability to be open and honest about your feelings and needs with others, it can influence how close they feel toward you.

Your self-esteem issues may make it difficult for you to articulate what you need in order to be happy, to listen well to your partner, and to be assertive about your boundaries in a relationship. Your low self-esteem may cause you to defer to your partner’s opinions and needs, causing you to become resentful and angry toward them over time.

Self-Esteem Influences your Boundaries

How much you care about and value yourself affects what you are willing to accept from others’ behaviors. For example, you are more likely to put up with disrespectful, controlling, and even abusive behavior from a partner if you do not feel you are worthy of better treatment.

Your low self-esteem may make it difficult for you to say no to your partner or may cause you to take things very personally that really have nothing to do with you at all. You may have difficulty reconciling your differences with your partner when you feel insecure about your own needs and choices. Low self-esteem may lead you to feel you are responsible for others’ feelings or needs. This can result in conflict or defensiveness from your partner.

Self-Esteem Guides Autonomy

Each of us has a need to be connected to others as well as to be an individual and stand on our own. To be autonomous, you must have self-esteem. And if you lack autonomy, your partner and relationship must shoulder a heavy burden for making you feel complete.

Without self-esteem, you will find it difficult to spend time alone or to honor your own values and needs. To be intimate with another person means you recognize their needs as well as your own and honor them equally. Low self-esteem makes this awareness more difficult.

Final Thoughts

Your self-esteem plays a significant role in the health of your relationship. Without it, you will have a challenging time communicating your needs, connecting on a deeper level, and being an equal partner to someone else.